I must concede that it would appear that the social policy of the last four decades has emasculated the Black male.
Think about it: in the pre-1950s era Black America, Black manhood was defined by a much higher standard. Men took care of the women back then, but today, Black male weaklings seek out Black women with enough low self-esteem that they will actually take care of a grown man! I’ve seen them in the malls buying expensive “gifts” for their girly-men and proud to do it!
In contemporary Black America, Black males, especially low-income ones, want surrogate mothers to take care of them. Black maleness has been reduced to empty bravado and machismo that has no substance. And this “sissification” didn't happen over night. No, gradual is the road that leads to hell and damnation (C.S. Lewis, The Screwtape Letters).
This shameful role reversal and psychological castration of Black males is directly linked to the lack of authentic masculine role models in the childhood households of young Black males. Spineless "men" who are actually effeminate husks of men are actually content to be taken care of by women. Is not the pimp archetype an effeminate male? Pimps want to be pampered and catered to. This is not authentic maleness.
Real men are supposed to be providers and protectors of the homestead. They are not meant to be too weak to head the households they start by impregnating gullible Black women. And this caricature has become the primary new "role model" for low-income Black males in the Black community. This is type of pathology that Judge Joe Brown bewails.
All of these “non-custodial” (a euphemism for “dead-beat”) fathers represent the manifestation of the emasculated Black male.
Now, none of this is to say that strong Black women can’t fend for themselves and “make it” without depending on their male counterparts. After all, I was raised by grandmother in a male less household and didn’t have any real male mole models until after I had joined the largest fraternity in the world, the Army.
Yes, Black women can get the job done all by themselves much like an amputee can get around by himself with just one leg. But this doesn’t change the fact the Original Design called for humankind to walk on two legs instead of only one. The natural state is two legs, not one, just as the natural state of households is two parents, not only one. For we know that two head are much better than only one (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
And in the animal kingdom, this is known as “pair-bonding.” Animals will bond temporarily (sometimes for life) for the purposes of nurturing their offspring. Why, even dumb animals know better! Do you mean to tell me that Blacks are dumber than beasts of the field in matters of reproduction?
This sort of argument defeats excuses many Black women give like “I don’t need no man.” Well, that may very well be true, but their children need fathers and role models. They need the masculine energy (called animus) that only an authentically masculine male can provide because this is a crucial ingredient in the childhood development and socialization process.
And the primary responsibility rests on the shoulders of Black females. Why, you ask? It is because the female is the universal sexual gatekeeper of every species on this planet. It is she who selects the male she will mate with. We see this in nature, how the males do all they can to attract the female’s attention in the hopes that she will select him to mate with.
And there was a time when Black women were chaste and presented a challenge for their men. But, many Black women (and women of all nationalities) no longer “bargain” for the marital contract for the sake of their offspring.
Courtship today (if it can be called that) is now a game of recreational sex. It was meant to be a bargaining process that ended in a marital contract that would ensure security some measure of security and nurturing for the offspring of the proposed union. Now, it just ends in cheap sex and yet another abandoned Black baby.